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Emotional Intelligence and the Joymind way. by Dr. Michael Glock

Shadow and Substance: Shaping the Self in a Shifting World

Shadow and Substance: Shaping the Self in a Shifting World
How Hypnotherapy Can Help Construct Emotional Intelligence

Let us begin with the words of Nobel Laureate Derek Walcott (1992), who, in his poem Love After Love, offers us a transformative metaphor for self-reconciliation, shadow integration, and the awakening of emotional intelligence:

LOVE AFTER LOVE
by Derek Walcott
The time will come
When, with elation,
You will greet yourself arriving
At your own door, in your own mirror,
And each will smile at the other’s welcome,
And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
To itself, to the stranger who has loved you
All your life, whom you ignored
For another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
The photographs, the desperate notes,
Peel your image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

Through these lines, Walcott (1992) depicts a deeply personal journey—one that resonates powerfully with the process of developing emotional intelligence (EI). This inward turn requires perceiving the emotions that shape us, understanding how they function in our lives, and learning to welcome each aspect of ourselves as a guest who holds keys to our wholeness. In so doing, we cultivate not only greater self-awareness, but also the capacity to build a more organized and self-directed life.

Emotional Intelligence: A Foundation for an Organized Life

Emotional intelligence, as conceptualized by Daniel Goleman (1995) and further delineated by Mayer and Salovey (1997), is broadly defined as the ability to perceive, understand, manage, and use emotions to guide thought and action. At its core, EI encompasses four interrelated skills (Mayer & Salovey, 1997):

  1. Perceiving Emotion
    Recognizing and interpreting emotions within oneself and others, often through nonverbal cues such as facial expressions, tone of voice, and posture.
  2. Using Emotions to Facilitate Thought
    Harnessing emotional experiences to guide thinking, direct attention to important stimuli, and boost creativity.
  3. Understanding Emotions
    Comprehending the nuances of emotional messages—including how emotions evolve and how they inform decisions and relationships.
  4. Managing Emotions
    Regulating one’s emotional reactions to foster personal growth, resilience, and smoother social interactions.

These core competencies equip individuals to navigate professional, personal, and even existential challenges, making EI an indispensable asset in constructing an organized, purposeful life. When we understand how our emotions function, we become more adept at prioritizing tasks, strengthening relationships, and making strategic decisions that align with our values and goals.

Hypnotherapy as a Frontline Methodology for EI Development

At JoyMind, the largest Hypnotherapy platform in the Americas,  our frontline methodology integrates Hypnotherapy with Depth Psychology, Indigenous wisdom, positive psychology, and spiritual psychologies, aiming to create a practical framework where emotional intelligence can flourish. As illustrated in a related article on Medium (see Glock, 2024), the process involves:

  1. Facilitating Inner Dialogues
    Helping clients to access repressed emotions, memories, and “shadow” elements (Jung’s term for the hidden or disowned aspects of the psyche).
  2. Encouraging Self-Reconnection
    Guiding individuals to revisit core experiences—both positive and traumatic—to develop resilience and self-compassion.
  3. Overcoming Anxiety and Stress
    Addressing the modern world’s relentless demands, such as work stress and the effects of past trauma, through calm but focused hypnotherapeutic interventions.
  4. Embracing the Whole Self
    Supporting clients in accepting even the difficult or shadow elements of their being, thereby fostering greater authenticity and psychological organization.

When individuals learn to perceive, understand, manage, and use their emotions through hypnotherapy, they naturally become more self-regulated and effectively organized in daily life. For many, this transformation translates to improved interpersonal skills, better stress management, and enhanced problem-solving capacities.

The Neuroscience of Hypnotherapy: Embodied Cognition, Mirror Neurons, and Priming

Our approach is grounded in emerging research at the intersection of psychology and neuroscience. Three critical concepts are especially relevant to how hypnotherapy can bolster emotional intelligence:

  1. Embodied Cognition
    Grounded cognition theory (Barsalou, 2008) posits that thinking, perceiving, and emoting are tightly linked with bodily experiences. In a hypnotherapy session, guided mental imagery stimulates neural pathways similarly to how real-life events do, thus allowing clients to “practice” emotional regulation and EI-based skills in a deeply experiential way.
  2. Mirror Neurons
    Discovered by Rizzolatti and Craighero (2004), mirror neurons activate both when performing an action and when observing someone else performing the same action. In hypnotherapy, clients engage in guided imagery and role-play (sometimes via gestaltian exercises), visualizing themselves behaving in emotionally intelligent ways—thus “priming” these neural networks to replicate that behavior in real-life situations (Yapko, 2012).
  3. Psychological Priming
    According to Bargh and Chartrand (2000), priming occurs when exposure to certain stimuli influences subsequent thoughts and behaviors—often below the threshold of conscious awareness. In a heightened state of focus like hypnosis, clients are especially receptive to therapeutic suggestions, metaphors, and visual cues. This makes it easier to “install” empowering beliefs and coping strategies, which then translate to automatic, emotionally intelligent responses outside the therapy setting.

By synthesizing these scientific insights into a seamless hypnotherapeutic experience, individuals are empowered to actively reshape their emotional landscape. Over time, the ability to regulate emotions, empathize with others, and guide one’s actions toward long-term goals becomes more natural.

Depth Psychology and the Shadow

In parallel with modern neuroscience, Depth Psychology—particularly Carl Jung’s (1959) theory of the shadow—underscores the value of integrating unseen or disowned parts of the psyche. Jungian thought aligns with EI in that you cannot manage or navigate emotions (the third and fourth branches of EI) if you remain unaware of them (the first and second branches).

Hypnotherapy, when combined with shadow work, encourages individuals to greet all parts of themselves—echoing Walcott’s invitation to “love again the stranger who was your self.” Such inner reconciliation not only heals old wounds but also reveals hidden strengths, enabling a more coherent and organized approach to life.

Creating an Organized and Purposeful Life

When emotional intelligence matures—especially under the positive influence of hypnotherapeutic techniques—life becomes more structured in several ways:

  1. Enhanced Goal-Setting and Decision-Making
    With clear emotional awareness, individuals can discern which goals truly resonate with their core values, leading to more deliberate and consistent decision-making.
  2. Stress Reduction and Resilience
    EI-based coping skills help reframe challenges as opportunities for learning, thereby reducing overwhelm and increasing adaptability.
  3. Improved Communication and Relationships
    Because EI fosters empathy and appropriate emotional expression, conflicts can be addressed more constructively, leading to better outcomes in personal and professional relationships.
  4. Greater Self-Compassion and Confidence
    Like Walcott’s poem suggests, truly “feasting” on your life requires that you accept and celebrate who you are. Hypnotherapeutic interventions help individuals build self-compassion, which in turn boosts confidence and productivity.

Conclusion: Feasting on Your Life

In this rapidly shifting world, emotional intelligence emerges not merely as a theoretical ideal but as a practical, deeply transformative skill set. By integrating the Four-Branch EI model (Mayer & Salovey, 1997), the neuroscience of embodied cognition and mirror neurons, and principles of psychological priming, hypnotherapy provides a robust framework for profound personal evolution.

In the spirit of Derek Walcott’s invitation to “sit. Feast on your life,” we at JoyMind guide clients in embracing the full breadth of their emotional landscape—shadow and all—so that they might step more confidently into their own mirror, greet themselves with compassion, and shape an organized, empowered life.

References

Bargh, J. A., & Chartrand, T. L. (2000). The mind in the middle: A practical guide to priming and automaticity research. In H. T. Reis & C. M. Judd (Eds.), Handbook of research methods in social and personality psychology (pp. 253–285). Cambridge University Press. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2000-07611-010

Barsalou, L. W. (2008). Grounded cognition. Annual Review of Psychology, 59, 617–645. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/6133545_Grounded_Cognition

Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Bantam Books. https://amzn.to/3VjGd0V

Jung, C. G. (1959). Aion: Researches into the Phenomenology of the Self (R.F.C. Hull, Trans.). Princeton University Press. https://amzn.to/4iHusf3

Mayer, J. D., & Salovey, P. (1997). What is emotional intelligence? In P. Salovey & D. Sluyter (Eds.), Emotional development and emotional intelligence: Educational implications (pp. 3–31). Harper Collins.
https://scholars.unh.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1007&context=personality_lab

Reich, W. (1999). American Odyssey. Farrar, Straus, Giroux. https://amzn.to/4iHusf3

Rizzolatti, G., & Craighero, L. (2004). The mirror-neuron system. Annual Review of Neuroscience, 27, 169–192.
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/8491604_The_Mirror-Neuron_System

Walcott, D. (1992). Love After Love. In Collected Poems 1948–1984. Farrar, Straus, and Giroux. (Original poem published in 1976) https://amzn.to/4iM7ljk

Yapko, M. D. (2012). Mindfulness and Hypnosis: The Power of Suggestion to Transform Experience. W. W. Norton & Company. https://amzn.to/3VkhWI3

(Note: For more on how JoyMind integrates EI with hypnotherapy, please refer to Glock, M. (2024), “Shadow and Substance: Shaping the Self in a Shifting World” on Medium: https://medium.com/p/d6a1b5b85ff4.)

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